Why men have affairs?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since ancient times. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause despair, and other harms. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, finances, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married date.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I am sure mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You would need to minimize the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, huge actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his woman for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is disappeared, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown separately, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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